Something I want to share with you on this Saturday, is not everyone deserves your time or your energy. There is a quote that’s floating around Instagram that states something along the lines, “Nothing is worst than wasted time because you can never get that time back.” Whew, well isn’t this a word. Naturally, I am one who loves to give emotional support, encourage, advise and counsel others, who are in need of it. Also, my love language is words of affirmation (I’ll do a post on this later) which embodies some of the previous things I listed. I’m CONSTANTLY pouring into others not only in my career but also in my day to day life and it can be very taxing. Because I am so passionate about helping others, in this arena I sometimes take on assignments (assist or pouring into others that God has not called me to) that are not mine.
I have to constantly remind myself, not every person that I come across is my assignment and not everyone deserves my energy on that level. The older I get, the more I realize how important it is to protect my peace and that its okay to say no. Additionally, I have learned that I have to make sure that I pour into myself because I cannot pour into others if I’m empty.
Below are some things to ask yourself and to think about to ensure that you are protecting your peace:
- Are you constantly pouring into others?
- Do you have toxic people in your life?
- Do you feel like you’re running on “E”(empty)?
- Do you have healthy boundaries in your various relationships (romantic, familial, friendships, coworkers/boss, etc.)?
Think about these things and make the necessary changes; whether incorporating “no” more into your dialogues, taking time to recharge (however that may look like), ending conversations that are toxic and distancing yourself from toxic people/situations. I challenge you to protect your peace!
June 29, 2019